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Updated: May 24, 2021

To quote Forrest Gump, "Life is like a box of chocolates; you never know what you’re going to get". Truer words have never been spoken! How many of us have planned our lives down to the last detail? I remember when I set the plan for my life when I was 18… it was going to look something like this:


Graduate high school @ 18

Graduate college @22 (meet eventual husband in college)

Start HR Recruiting career working downtown ATL @ 23ish

Get married @ 25

First baby @ 26

Second baby @ 28

Third baby @30

Live happily ever after in unadulterated marital bliss….


My life was planned. Real “life” events taking place didn't cross my mind because I had a plan! I had no idea it would take 7 years to complete my undergraduate degree (took 2 breaks) or that I would forgo my corporate HR dreams to work for my family business. (I still feel like I missed out on business trips and happy hour after work.🤷🏾‍♀️🤣) I was married at 25 and had first baby at 27. Recieved my graduate degree at 30. My second (and more than likely last) baby was born when I was 32. And that happily ever after, marital bliss stuff turned out not to be my story. I’m now just shy of 39 waiting for my divorce to be finalized.


What happened you ask? L I F E! No matter how much we plan, we can never plan for the twists and turns of life. Things can be going perfectly one day and the next your whole world is turned upside down. Or you can notice subtle changes happening, and not think too much about them, then one day you look up and your life is not anything like what you thought it would be! Guess what? That’s ok. As long as you recognize the issue and/or challenges and put in the work, you can get right back on track, if that's the direction your life is meant to take.


Have you considered that God is moving you in the direction of His will for your life??? I ask myself this question on the regular basis. My divorce will be final any day now, and I still find myself questioning is this what’s supposed to happen. “God is this really your will for my life?” “Should I have really filed for divorce Lord?” One thing that my therapist pointed out to me is that there was plenty of opportunity on both sides of my husband (I can still call him that for now), and myself to stop it. That didn’t happen, so I’m inclined to believe that this marriage is not God’s will for my life at the moment and truth be told I’m still working very hard to accept that. Things happen in life that will knock us off of our center, that will make us question our very existence. I’ve questioned myself, my sanity, and most certainly God. But as my mom has told me over and over again no one is exempt from life.


I still look at my situation and thank God for it. I could be going through a variety of other things that are way more serious than divorce. So, while this curve ball that I’ve been thrown absolutely SUCKS… I’ve learned to be grateful in it! I’ve learned to look at the bright side of things: My relationship with my soon to be ex-husband has gotten drastically better, I’ve learned that I am so much stronger than I’ve ever given myself credit for and I know that I’m a good person at heart who just wants to be loved as much and as hard as I love. Do y’all know how many times I’ve wondered why God didn’t give me a little more “ratchetness” to handle things a bit more differently. That’s not who I am, and He helped me remain in my character through it all.


While I clearly don’t have all the answers and am pretty much starting my life over, I’m excited to see what life is going to bring me in my next chapter. I have a lot more life to live with curve balls in tow and knowing that I have God on my side and being in His will makes it easier to face!


Trust Him sis! He'll never let you go!




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